The Introverted Leader's 4 P's Process

Hello

John here again, bringing you yet another tip on shyness.

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler Ph.D has suggested four Ps process: preparation, presence, push and practice in her renowned book titled "The Introverted Leader". I strongly believe that the 4 Ps process is a great tool not only for introverts but also for anyone who like to master their general social skills. Below is the extract version of the 4 Ps process in my own words.

Preparation >> Presence >> Push >> Practice >> (repeat the cycle here)

Preparation: Preparation is the first step in the 4 Ps cycle. This is the step where you prepare yourself with questions and answers so that you are confident to handle any spontaneous situation. Preparation also means that you have a game plan so that you can take time to strategize for any particular social interaction.

Presence: Presence is the second step in the 4 Ps cycle that focus on how you are positioned in the present. Presence shows people that you are engaged and that you are there for them. Be sure to focus on the moment and the people you are with and people will see you as a genuine person.

Push: Push is probably the hardest 4 Ps step and it is about pushing yourself out of comfort zone. This is the step where the skills you learn and adopt in Preparation and Presence steps are being pushed into action! It is also a good idea to get into a habit of stretching yourselves to the limits. The more you push yourself and take risks, the more you become accustomed to taking risks and it will no longer be a new game anymore.

Practice: Practice is the step where you practice new behaviors. As the old saying go, practice makes perfect and the 4 Ps process is no exception.

After you have learned and mastered a social skill, the 4 Ps process are to be repeated for a new set of skills.

I believe that the above 4 Ps process can be used as a tool to overcome shyness. It is a great tool that anyone can use.